There's an episode from SATC where MIranda goes to an engagement party and someone asks her if she's seeing anyone special. She replies no and then gets this look of pity. So she makes a joke saying that she's seeing a bunch of UNspecial guys which makes the questioner laugh and everything is comfortable again. I used to think SATC got this wrong. Correction - I did!!

In the past few months I am increasingly becoming aware of the fact I have been on the receiving end of THE LOOK! It's less severe than the look someone gives you if you've lost your job but more obvious than if you say you've broken a bone. (Couldn't really think of any other examples there.) But you get the picture. It's the sad eyes, the way the head tilts slightly to the right and the silent words ~ 'aw it's a shame for you.' It is irritating!! But what do I do? I do a Miranda.
'No I'm not seeng anyone but having lots of fab sex'
'No I can't be doing with you men.'
'No I don't have time.'
All of this is bullshit of course but it makes me feel better when I see questioners wink at me as if to say fairplay to me.

The truth of it all is once upon a time there was a girl. She liked to go clubbing, to spend days lounged on the sofa with the hairs on her body growing back, who liked to be able to do exactly what she wanted when she wanted. Then her friends started having babies and she saw how hard 'grown-up' life would be so was even more determined not to do the settling down thing because that meant saggy boobs, baggy lady gardens, no time for yourself and the worst of all? Having to share this experience with only one man FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!
Then the girl became a woman!
Truth be told, since turning 23 (and I don't know why this is) but I've kind of wanted the whole relationship thing. I stress - not the babies or marriage, just the going on dates and having it actually go somewhere instead of him texting me excuses why it won't or me avoiding him until he gets the message. Out of my four closest mates, three of them are with someone and I sort of feel a little left out. The fourth friend has a baby so she never comes out anyway but the other three? I dunno. I guess I'm feeling a little lost. My life is sorted, I know where I want to go career-wise and I'm being productive about it. But I want to have someone special. Actually I want to be somebody's special someone. The person who you think of calling first when things go bad or you have some really exciting news. I am making myself cringe here but of you can't be honest with yourself, you'll be telling lies forever.
It's hard to be around my friends when they have their other halves there and they spend more time looking at them -just looking! - instead of taking part in the conversation with you that they started! It's especially hard when you're standing waiting for a taxi when they all climb in the cars and wave you goodbye. It's symbolic really, they have a new chapter in their lives and you don't.
Moral of the story? Well I don't know. All I know is that when you think you will know what you want forever then you're wrong! Circumstances change and you get older and start to want different things.
I'm just glad I stayed on good terms with THE ex (that's a long story) otherwise I'd be a permanant fixture at Ann Summers I think....;-P